Did you know that as human beings we tend to place things into categories, thus creating order and structure in our world? I’m sure there are many different ways a person can go about doing this in their day-to-day life. I’ve noticed that I personally order things by songs and sometimes types of alcohol. For example, mango margaritas will forever remind me of the time my best friend and I sang karaoke to Joan Jet at a beach bar. FYI, Hit Me With Your Best Shot did not receive a standing ovation.
Certain songs become hits for a reason and it’s because our soul identifies with them. Almost every song I love, I can place a memory with it. Recently I was listening to the song Don’t Blink off Kenny Chesney’s Just Who I Am, Poets and Pirates cd. A few lines of one verse say:
‘Let’s start puttin’ first things first’
‘Cause when your hourglass runs outta sand
You can’t flip it over, start again
Take every breath God gives you, for what it’s worth
These lyrics had me thinking about an old friend that possessed a whole playlist of songs in my life. We had had a falling out almost ten years back and I had often thought with a shrug of my shoulders, it was what it was; there was nothing I could do to change the past. Eventually I realized that while I couldn’t change the past, I could try to put my best foot forward and start from the present.
I was scared out of my mind to approach this person but I did. The white flag that did prevail opened up a floodgate of emotion that I hadn’t been expecting and filled a small pool of longing that had been drained for way to long. Honest Abe Lincoln really hit the nail on the head when he declared, “The better part of ones life consists in his friendships.”
I challenge you to get in touch with a long lost friend or settle a difference that has been lingering. While it is necessary to constantly evolve in our friendships and gain new perspectives, sometimes the past shouldn’t just stay in the past.